About me

My photo

My blog is my escape, where my passion for people & writing come together to create something special. Be inspired. Be encouraged. Be blessed. Much love & keep smiling. x

Thursday, November 10, 2016

5 things I wish I knew before leaving school

I witnessed my sister heading off to her Year 12 Formal the other day and I felt so incredibly proud. The beginning of the end to a long thirteen years of schooling and turning the page to a new chapter post-HSC exams. I came home from work the night of Aimee's last exam and she was glowing. The freedom she had only been looking forward to was now a reality. I hugged her, welcoming her to this new and exciting journey. I explained to her that while she may feel like a huge burden had been lifted off her shoulders, it is not all cruisy from here. Life throws lots of curveballs and you need to be prepared to face them head on, instead of let them overpower you. 

Later that night, I laid in bed thinking how that was me two years ago and how much has changed in that short period of time. I reminisced about the challenges that I faced as I completed my exams and my personal experiences of that taste of 'freedom' that followed. I quickly wrote down a few things that I wish I had known when I waved school goodbye, with the intention of sharing these pieces of advice with my sister.

1. Be open minded. 
You'll meet new people with different values and morals to you. Don't let that dishearten you, but rather listen to their perspectives, explore new avenues and deepen your own understanding. Don't be stubborn and close-minded. Always be willing to learn and grow. Knowledge is power. Stand up for what you believe in, but don't shut down others for their beliefs. 

2. Embrace challenges. Acknowledge that things won't be easy, but when difficulties arise, take those moments to pause and evaluate the situation from multiple directions. Sometimes we limit ourselves to the things we want to see and are oblivious to the things we should or need to be focusing on. Your attitude and perspective changes everything, so adjust them accordingly.

3. Find your passion and run with that. Do something that you love, but also try new things - you may love something that you don't even know yet! The first step is finding something that you love, but the most important thing is believing in that. Never be scared to step outside your comfort zone. Often, you will find that you will make new experiences, meet new people and have the opportunity to reveal your hidden talents when you take a risk and try something different. 


4. Make time for your friends. It is different after school, because you have to put time and effort into maintaining your friendships. You grow up with these people and you learn from each other. These relationships are important and you will find that once you go your separate ways, it is much more difficult to hold on to those special bonds you have created. All relationships work better when equal amounts of effort is put in by everyone involved.


5. Remember that you are Loved. You will quickly realise that this world is messed up. There are so many things going on, not only on a global scale, but even within our local surroundings. It is okay to feel overwhelmed by all of these things, but also remember to have faith that there is something much bigger and greater than all of these materialistic and temporary things. In a world full of chaos, let this reminder bring you peace. 

Growing up is an exciting, but scary and fun, yet challenging experience. I have realised in the last two years, that I have already grown and matured so much. But more importantly, I have realised that this growing and maturing never stops.

Keep smiling. x

Thursday, September 8, 2016

society needs its butt kicked.

We all have insecurities. We live in a world where we naturally compare our appearance, style, personality, career, lifestyle and more, with that of friends and complete strangers. Inevitably (and wrongly), we begin to believe that we are simply not good enough. Just as we begin to get comfortable and feel like we 'have our lives together' or are 'genuinely happy', something new emerges that tells us that we aren't quite as happy as we could be yet. 

A society that finds worth in materialistic things instructs on how we can enhance every little thing about us in order to fit perfectly within its ideology. Although, this implies that what lies beyond and doesn't conform, therefore holds no value. 

Do we really want to reflect that false framework our messed up society has built? Girls get body shamed for not having a gap between their thighs and guys that don't sport a tanned athletic body with a six-pack aren't as "attractive" as they could be. I mean, come on, seriously? And the sad part is, this doesn't even scratch the surface. Society needs its butt kicked. Seriously. 

Let's admire and compliment one another without questioning our own
beauty, strength and self-worth.

Reality is, when we adopt this frame of mind there is limited space left to genuinely love ourselves, because we are too focused on improving, rather than appreciating, the qualities that we already have. Let's show this society who's boss. A society in which unrealistic standards need to be re-evaluated so that going against 'the grain' is praised, rather than looked down upon. 

Girls, don't even think about mentioning thigh gaps anyway - they are, like, so last year. 'Thigh brows' are the new thing (sadly, it's a thing - Google it). If this is the kind of standard that society has perceived as 'normal', then this is an open invitation to everyone who would like to be as abnormal as possible with me. 

Let's admire and compliment one another without questioning our own beauty, strength and self-worth. Empower, not compete. Let this be your reminder that you are SO enough. 

Keep smiling. x